Ep 120 - Forget the Five Year Plan

Stop trying to predict your future when you can't even stabilize your present. This episode challenges the obsession with five-year plans and flips the script on what progress actually looks like in early transition. If you've been beating yourself up for not having it all figured out yet, this one will remind you that foundation-building isn't sexy—but it's the only thing that makes everything else possible.

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When you're considering your future, especially in the middle of a significant life change, everyone wants to know where you'll be in five years. Just envision it. What will your life look like in five years? What about ten? But almost no one is asking where you'll be in three months. And in reality, that's a far more important question to focus on right now. Hi, this is Jordana. I'm the CEO of the Recon Network and host of the In Brief podcast. And today we're talking about one of the most misunderstood parts of transition: the pressure to have a long-term plan when you barely have footing. We're going to talk about why long-term planning during early transition is a trap, why stabilization has to come before strategy, and why the immediate future, not the distant one, is where your attention needs to be right now. This is in brief. Let's get to it. Where do you see yourself in five years? And the assumption behind that question is that the answer to it defines whether or not you have stability. If you can't answer it clearly, it clearly means you don't have direction, right? You're not thinking strategically enough. But here's what that question misses. If you don't have stable footing right now, not only is that not a gavel on where you are currently, but planning five years out is useless. It's not just premature, it's counterproductive. That's because when you're in early transition, when you're still figuring out what civilian life actually feels like, and when your nervous system is still adjusting, trying to map out five years is like trying to plan a cross-country road trip when you don't even know if your car will start after all this time. In this situation, a long-term plan doesn't help you, just adds pressure to a system that's already overloaded. The reality is that you can't build a future when you don't have a foundation. And the next 90 days, that's foundational work. That's where you figure out how to function and how to stabilize. That means the next 90 days aren't for career trajectory or building wealth. They're not for finding your purpose or locking in your identity or becoming the person that you want to be for the rest of your life. The next 90 days are for one thing: stabilization. That's it. And stabilization is not glamorous. It is not impressive, but it is the one thing that makes everything else possible. Stabilization, as we might define it, looks like this: you build a routine, you start figuring out what your baseline needs are: sleep, food, movement, connection. You identify one or two people that you can talk to honestly as a supportive backboard. You get your finances to a place where you're not in crisis mode. You find work that keeps you moving and pays the bills. You create predictability and give your nervous system proof that the ground beneath you is not moving. It is solid enough to stand on. Now, of course, none of that sounds like progress. It's not glamorous. And when someone asks you the question of where do you want to be in five years or where are you going, it doesn't even really sound like you're building towards something, but you are, because you can't build anything meaningful when your system is a constant threat mode, and your system won't come out of threat mode until it has proof that you're stable. Now, when you leave the military, the clarity that comes with the structured plan and a structured career path disappears. And without that clarity, most people do one of two things. They either freeze because they can't see the path forward, or they force a plan into being because not having one feels unbearable. Both of those responses miss the point. The problem isn't not having a five-year plan. The problem is that you're trying to make one when you don't have data yet. You don't know what kind of work fits you. You don't know what your capacity is outside of the military structure. You don't know what your non-negotiables are because you haven't tested them. So any plan you make in this new lifestyle is just a guess. And when you're guessing under pressure, you can often be wrong. You assume you know what you want. You assume you know what will make you happy, you assume to know what kind of life you're building toward. But those assumptions are shaped by who you were in the military, not who you're becoming outside of it. And the gap between those two versions of yourself can be way bigger than you think. So when you lock yourself into a five-year plan too early, you're committing to a future based on incomplete information. And then a year later, when you realize the plan doesn't fit who you've become or who you're becoming, you feel like you failed and it's a setback. But you didn't fail, you just put ink to the plan too soon. So instead of asking, where will I be in five years? Ask this. What do I need to be stable 90 days from now? Not thriving, not successful, just stable. And what does stable look like for you? It often looks like having enough money coming in that you're not panicking every week. Looks like having a routine that keeps you functional. It looks like knowing who you can call when things get hard. And all of that might not sound ambitious, but stability is the most ambitious thing you can aim for in early transition because without it, every decision you make is reactive. Every move is survival-based. And survival-based decisions don't build a future. They just keep you from falling apart. So if you're in early transition of any kind, not even that of just leaving service, know that you're allowed to take time to narrow your focus and prioritize stability. In fact, doing so gives you a stable foundation to make a far wider range of decisions from. It doesn't make you short-sighted, it makes you strategic. And as a side note, if you need help with this, this is exactly the kind of work that the Recon Network was built for, to help you identify the gaps and fill them to create a stable foundation you can work from. In fact, our new app, Mark 20, was just designed to do the same thing to help you stabilize as you move through a life shift. But even on your own, narrowing your focus to what is important, filling those gaps is critical to give you a forward operating base you can work from in the future. Now, after 90 days, or whenever you're ready, because let's face it, life doesn't always adhere to our own timelines. But whenever you're stable, you can start thinking further out. You can start asking the bigger questions, start experimenting, start planning. But then you're doing it from a place of stability instead of a place of panic or uncertainty. And those plans, I promise you, will look completely different than plans made while you're in survival mode. They're clearer, they're more aligned, they're based on what you actually need instead of what you think you're supposed to want. So here's what I want you to do. For now, forget about the next five years and just focus on the next 90 days. What do you need to be stable three months from now? Notice that I didn't say successful, not impressive. Just stable. Focus on that because the next 90 days aren't about building your future. They're about building a foundation that makes a future possible. Now, long-term planning definitely has its place, but not in early transition when your system is still adjusting. You don't need a five-year plan right now. You need 90 days of solid ground. And once you have that, the rest will all fall into place.

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